Scary short story:

“I can’t move, breathe, or speak. It’s so dark all the time. If I knew it would have been this lonely, I would have been cremated.”

What’s really scary about this story, to me, is that most women today are living their lives just like this:

Already in a box (a coffin, if you will)…

Unable to do what she really wants…

Say what she really wants…

With the space and freedom she really wants.

What’s more: There’s a reason WHY this is happening to so many women and I have a theory (and evidence) to prove it. Check it:

If you were to take an entire year and spend it reading as many books and biographies on the most successful people in the world, you would pick up on KEY factors that they all possess that have made them successful.

In fact, there’s a book by Andy Andrews called The Seven Decisions that dive deep into these key factors of successful people and I highly encourage you to read it as soon as you can.

By the title of the book, you can tell that there are 7 total factors all successful people possess and the first factor, or decision, is “The Responsible Decision.”

In his book, Andy says, “You are where you are today – mentally, spiritually, emotionally, financially, and in many ways, physically – because of the decisions you have made.”

Powerful stuff, eh?

If this is true (which I believe it is and because of that belief I have been so successful in my life) then it only stands to reason that why so many women are stuck in a box, doing something they don’t love, being unheard and under appreciated, and without the space and freedom they want is because of the decisions they’ve made themselves. No one else.

Super powerful stuff.

If it’s out of our control, there’s nothing we can do about it.

BUT…

If it IS in our control, we can change it.

Think about that for a moment…

The moment you give someone else responsibility (usually in the form of blaming, complaining, and whining) you give up your ability to change the situation.

The more we take responsibility for where we are the more power we have to change it.

So…

If time freedom, money freedom, job freedom, or any other kind of freedom is what you seek…

Begin with the decision to be responsible…

The Seven Decisions is a thought-provoking, life-changing kind of book and I can’t recommend it enough. If this post, or any post or email I ever send you speaks to you in some way, please read this book.

You won’t regret it.

Until Next Time… Stay BIG

Dana

PS: Andy also has this to say about FREEDOM in the same chapter:

“Are you trading your beauty and freedom to help someone else’s dreams come true? Way too many people trade out their freedom for security, and they don’t even realize it. There is a difference between an opportunity you seize and a trap you walk into. Being aware of the choice and the trap is the key.”

Something to think about.

…and if that pushed a button for you, please leave a comment below telling me why. I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Until then… stay passionate!