Have you ever felt like no matter how hard you try…you can never change your behavior?
You may want to diet or be more organized or make more money, but when the rubber meets the road, you never really change.
Why the heck is that?
I know it is frustrating.
And maybe you have reached the point where you don’t even try to change anymore because you don’t think you can.
But I am here to tell you that you can change!
There is a secret to changing.
And I can teach it to you.
Once you know the secret you can make any change happen in your life. Big or small. Professional or personal.
Want to know how to do it?
The first place to start is with the formula for change:
Results = Mindset + Action
Let me break this down, because each piece is equally important.
Results – you need a vision or a destination. You really need to know what “there” looks like or else you will never know when you have made it.
And, getting there is a combination of mindset and action. You need both.
If you take action without mindset, you are nothing but a hamster on a wheel – never making any progress. If you focus on mindset without action, it is the equivalent of wearing rose colored glasses.
So, how do you pick the right destination?
The first issue you need to overcome is knowing why you get stuck in the same pattern.
Did you know that we are all bombarded with 182 billion instances of information coming at us every minute?
That is a whole lot of information!
No one could process all of that…we would be left paralyzed.
So, we each have a reticular activating system – a filter that helps us deal with information overload. This is the gatekeeper to what enters our consciousness.
What does it let in?
Those things that are relevant to your survival…
And things that are evidence to what you already believe.
I’ll say that again.
Your internal gatekeeper only lets in things that are evidence to what you already believe.
What does that mean for you?
You have control over how reality shows up in your life.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of beliefs that are in your subconscious that may not be serving you when it comes to changing.
And, honey, it’s time to chuck those beliefs to the curb.
How? You need to find out what those beliefs are that aren’t serving you and set up a mantra to change them.
Think of how many times your gatekeeper is affirming those beliefs – if you want to change them, you need to tell it something different just as often…or more.
Next week, I will talk more about mantras and how to pick the one that is right for you. Sadly, change doesn’t happen overnight. But if you know how your mind works, you absolutely can make all the positive changes you want – and truly start loving your life.
Until then…stay passionate!
Until then… stay passionate!